I’ve been feeling like I have to protect those close to me lately, particularly my kids. If you read my last post, you know how the enemy is attacking my family in a way that is making me want to shield my kids from the world.
What it really has me doing though, is praying for my kid’s protection from whatever the enemy is trying to throw at them.
Being that my kids are pretty young, they don’t see it as the enemy attacking them, they think they had a bad day full of drama. I, knowing what it really is, have to break it down to them to help them realize how they are to handle or address the situation.
We’ve been having some pretty heavy conversations lately, don’t get me wrong, I love it, but boy, if the enemy doesn’t stop playing. I really do wish I could just keep my kids in hiding or fight their battles for them, but I know it wouldn’t help them at all.
They need to be prepared for bigger and better things, and if momma is there to try and stop it all from happening, what are they really learning? I had a conversation with someone close to me about how they were feeling some type of way about how my kids were acting.
Me, knowing my kids, had to take a step back, listen, and figure out what they were really saying to me. I felt like as their parent, they were criticizing me, not so much my kids. After I got off the phone, I felt like I did something wrong.
Like I wasn’t raising them to their standards and started to get a little upset with myself for allowing, yet another person to make me feel some type of way by something they said. I got off the phone and called my daughter. I asked her side of the story and explained to her what happened and what she should do to make sure she is being respectful at all times.
She actually didn’t even know anything was wrong until I brought it to her attention, but because I know how the person who called me about the issue is, I wanted to make sure all bases were covered. I had a conversation with the Lord about it to make sure I wasn’t tripping and in my own feelings, and He says to me:
You need to be well equipped for what the enemy is going to throw at you
I know it hurts because it comes from those close to you
Remember you don’t need a man’s validation, I know what you’re doing
Have a conversation so this doesn’t make you bitter, but also know they don’t mean harm
People don’t often realize how things come across when they feel like they’ve been wronged
Instead of them addressing the situation with that person, they came to you, like you were at fault.
Neither you nor who she was accusing were wrong, but they were in a mood and it was taken out on the wrong person.
Do not change who you are based on someone else’s opinion of how you do things, continue to keep the lines of communication open with your kids
They will keep talking to you, They will keep sharing with you
Don’t shut the door on them, no matter your mood.
Right now everything is a big deal to them and they will share it with you as long as you allow them to,
Don’t take that away from them, they look up to you
To say my husband and I are raising our kids differently is an understatement. God allowed us to raise them, knowing what our kids need. We are by no means, perfect parents, but we are perfect for the situation that God gave us or He wouldn’t have given it to us.
No matter what others may think of how I raise my kids or what they think of my kids, I am doing what the Lord is asking of me.
Times are different, things aren’t how they used to be when I was growing up. There is a lot in your face, you need to have an opinion about it, you either for it or against it, type things going on. I will not standby and let my kids just be okay with things that are wrong, and I will let them know what I feel is wrong and explain to them why.
We will have a discussion about it, we will make sure they understand what it is that is right, and what it is that is wrong so they know and have an understanding of it. When I feel uneasy about things, I go to the Lord. He is my Father.
He has talked with me to help me understand the feelings and uneasiness I feel. I would be doing my kids a disservice if I didn’t do the same thing with them. That’s how we teach our kids. We help them understand what is acceptable and what isn’t.
Ephesians 6:4 says, Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
My goal is to be pleasing to the Lord. I honor Him by being obedient.