I have been going back and forth with my oldest and middle daughters, Kaylah and Jada.
They are both going through similar situations.
Both of them have had some falling out with a friend that they were once close
with. Both of them want that friendship to go back to the way it was, but both are
too stubborn to make the first move.
Stubborn, they are, but I know all about that. Who am I to judge them for being that way,
when I am just learning myself, to not be.
They are kids, I am an adult and I am just now learning how not to be stubborn?
Who’s the real stubborn one. The good thing in all this, is that they are learning at a
young age how to do the hard stuff. I have gone through similar situations as an adult,
they are going through as children. As their mother, I am to share with them how the Lord
helped me. I had to explain to them that holding grudges only makes room for bitterness,
anger, and strife to come into play. You find yourself not wanting to be around
someone and you have no reason why, when the whole situation could have been solved with
a conversation.
Hard things are not necessarily hard, but we make them out to be that way in our heads.
Things that we normally do with our friends become harder when disagreements arise
and it shouldn’t be that way.
Everything isn’t always going to be butterflies and rainbows, but if we can remember to
speak to others with love, we could solve a few issues, before they become something bigger.
It’s all in the presentation. Allowing the Lord to lead us when the tough situations arise,
makes room for Him to be glorified. Knowing He is the one orchestrating it all takes the
pressure off of us and allows us to depend on Him. The night both my daughter’s ambushed
me to talk about their situations, made me feel proud to know they are trying to
work through difficult situations in a way that took me years to do. It also shows how
mature they are becoming. I know I owe it all to the Lord.
Before going to bed that night, I prayed that whatever was stopping them from reaching out
to have a conversation be removed and that they don’t feel afraid.
The next day, Jada shared with me a text message she sent to someone she wanted to reach
out to. The response she got to me was good. I think she was expecting more, but I had to
explain to her she put herself out there and as long as the girl knows that Jada is willing to
be kind to her when they eventually talk, then I’m sure sooner or later things will change.
A couple days later, I get a text from Kaylah saying that the person she wanted to reach out
to was asking her friends about her. They even reached out to me unbeknownst to her.
Of course she didn’t think I was telling of the truth, but I had to let her know they did.
To see God move on their behalf was awesome. It shows that not only does He care about
the things we care about, but He made a way for them to make amends with severed
relationships. It may not be how it was before, but who’s to say it won’t get there again.
As I hear the testimonies from my kids, I can’t help but be excited for them because I know
it’s the Lord working it out. To witness them taking those steps of faith, makes my heart so
happy. It makes me a proud mama to know that not only do my kids know the importance
of doing hard things, they also know how to act on it.
What are some hard things you are putting off doing?
